Breaking The Persona: Redefining Life On My Own Terms

Learn to ascend beyond the poor vibration of what others expect you to be so you can honor the truth of who you are.

Photo credit:    George Pagan

Photo credit: George Pagan

Life can be challenging and downright frustrating...As there are so many hurdles to navigate, from figuring out your purpose to advocating for self, negotiating opportunities and projecting confidence.

Recently, I made a huge life change—I relocated from NYC to the South. And, boy has it been scary! If you're an entrepreneur or have ever made a decision with absolutely no guarantee of how it will turn out, then you know exactly what I mean!

Because I believe in transparency and not just post my highlight reel, I’m going to share that I've also returned to a 9-to-5. I’ve accepted a position at a locally-owned and operated chain of The UPS Store, as a Business Development Manager while I still build my own brand.

Working for yourself and working for someone else is not mutually exclusive. Even though there is this common belief that entrepreneurship is the ultimate form of winning. To some, if you go back to working a 9-to-5, then you’re considered playing small. But, I don’t care because I know who I am! Not to mention I’m OK with not allowing anyone to set and negotiate the conditions of my standards!

The truth is, many of us wear theatrical masks to fit other people’s definition of who we should be. But most of us are just afraid to be real, because being real means vulnerability and none of us want to really feel vulnerable. As I've found, entrepreneurship is often a three-steps forward, and one step back. Yes, even when you’re a seasoned #girlboss. The lesson I learned, is that we have to release ourselves from the expectations of others and not be confined to what we can’t do.

Breaking the persona

Maybe you decided to start your own business, then realized that it is not for you. But Gary V says it best, “if you tell everyone you’re going to do something and you change your mind 100 days in based on new information, that’s a strength. Not a weakness.” That’s because leadership and growth mean vulnerability combined with honesty, integrity, and a commitment to evolving.

Working a 9-to-5 doesn’t have to be a burden. For me it’s a blessing. Not only do I get to follow my passion, provide excellent customer service and the necessary tools to help small businesses thrive, but it gives me stability and allows me to fund my passion while taking care of my family. So don’t let anyone convince you to compromise your personal and professional growth by placing your power in other people’s opinion.

Whether you dream of being an entrepreneur, working your dream job, or both. Ensure that whatever you do is congruent with your values, complements your skill set and ultimately provides fulfillment. In the end, when you are motivated to create a life that's authentic to you, then doing the work is not only rewarding but also enjoyable!

3 Tips to Overcome Fear and Doubts to Win in Life

Here are three tips to overcome your fears and doubts to step out on faith as long as your decisions reflect your true nature.

OUTLINE A PLAN

Like anything in life, it’s absolutely important to have a plan of action. Create a plan that will keep you consistent and serve as your blueprint. Whether it’s starting a side hustle, changing your eating habits, or moving across country, having a plan will give you a much better chance of success!

GET AN ACCOUNTABILITY PARTNER

As exciting as living out your dreams may sound, it is crucial to identify those you can trust and lean on when life starts throwing weight at you. Think of them as your own personal cheerleaders. With my significant other — my supporter-in-chief and my girls along with my coach, I’m covered when I get discouraged or overwhelmed, they know exactly what to say to re-motivate me. Surround yourself with people who believe in you and your vision or will push you towards your goal.

BE CONVICTED

When you are trying to reach your goals, or creating an atmosphere where things can happen life will throw everything —including the kitchen sink at you. Others will provoke your insecurity with how things should be done, or why you shouldn't do things the way you plan. I'll let you in on a little secret, everyone in my life has been supportive of my business, my book, my choices. But, I've learned to be okay with that. If I listened to everyone’s opinion, then I wouldn’t have leaped and realized I can fly.