Why This Communications Consultant Wants You To Bet On Yourself
Nicole Melissa Williams, owner and creative director of Nicole Williams Collective, a communications and event agency, shares how she learned to live her best life—as told in her own words.
I am an avid reader. My favorite reads include self-help and personal development books. One of my personal best recommendation is Successful Women Think Differently by Valorie Burton. Now with the release of my own book, Bet On Yourself: Life lessons to cultivate and create your own success, I am sharing my own truth.
As shared in my book, before I became an entrepreneur, a divorcee and now an author, I was an undocumented single mom trying to stand on my own two feet without making my burden someone else’s weight. Women wear this superwoman thing like a badge of honor. But it stands in the way of your mental health and you asking for help. Diagnosed with severe orthostatic hypertension, and after two months in ICU, I was discharged with a warning… If I didn’t learn to advocate for self, I would send myself to an early grave. The thing is, for us women, self-care sometimes is a revolutionary thing.
I’ve spent the last few months reflecting on my story, and wanted to share in the hopes of inspiring you to find yourself, accept yourself, love yourself and be yourself as an act of self-care and self-worth. With pure honesty and keen wit, I describe some of my triumphs and failures, telling my story in my own words and on my own terms. Sprinkling in the wins and fails that other women have endured and the necessary lessons learned.
Contrary to the Instagram depiction of success, you have to put in the hard work, blood, sweat, and tears. And, you can’t forget the rejections and fears along the way before cashing in on your passion. It’s not always going to be sunshine and rainbows but I’ve learned the best lessons at the lowest points in my life. Yes the odds were not in my favor, after all I was a black woman with no legal papers for employment. Nevertheless, I defined what success meant to me (created a vision board), then kept my eyes on it.
Though I still have difficult days, self-awareness has been beneficial because it has taught me to love myself, trust myself and feel happier, most of the time—but not without consistent effort. I love my glow up, because I found my strength in the struggle. Consider my book an inspiration and a reminder that when things don’t go as planned, there are lessons to learn even at the lowest points in your life. Bet On Yourself (Life lessons to cultivate and create your own success), is equal parts deep reflection and captivating storytelling, informative and practical career advice, especially for millennial women.