Keeping Your Eyes On The Dream and Your Heart at Home

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I'm officially a college student again after 14 years! Yes, that now means homework, lots of reading, quizzes, midterms, and finals on top of an already stacked schedule. On the first day of English, the professor asked us to do an impromptu essay. Her objective: to gauge how we write individually. We were asked to write an essay in response to the following quote by Oscar Wilde.

"There are only two tragedies in life: one is not getting what one wants, and the other is getting it."

So, today I figured I would respond to this quote here on the blog. Specifically, from the standpoint of women having it all.

When I think of this quote, I think of how society fails to support and frames women in the context of family. When you mirror the life of women in a two-parent household to a single-mother household, the challenges are the same. Either way, women shoulder the burden and the bulk of the responsibilities.

Wilde got it right! There are indeed two tragedies in life. One is not  getting what one wants, and the other is getting exactly what one wants.

As women, there is this optimistic ideal of having it all: the happy marriage, healthy kids, a successful career and business, and all while prioritizing self-care. And as I wrote before, I don't believe in the elusive term "work life balance."  Career women with kids have so many things competing for their time, which makes life a logistical obstacle course. However, I do believe in managing work and personal life to create a happy medium.

As an entrepreneur, the parent of a sophmore in college, and a preschooler; returning to school to further my education seemed like an impossible notion. Yet, I find myself with the daunting task of keeping my eyes on my goals and my heart at home. I'm naturally a planner and I'm currently keeping on top of things. However, I am dreading falling behind in my classes, being inconsistent with my blog posts, and dropping the ball in business.

Wilde got it right! There are indeed two tragedies in life. One is not  getting what one wants, and the other is getting exactly what one wants. My internal conflict is in trying to build and better myself without compromising or sacrificing my family. What I've learned these past couple of weeks, is that planning and positive intentions are not enough to reach your accomplishments. And like someone once said, “let your dreams be bigger than your fears, your actions louder than your words, and your faith stronger than your feelings.” So, my response to Oscar Wilde is, while we can't avoid either tragedy in life, we can definitely try to temper each one with the intention of making each a bit easier.

Career women with kids have so many things competing for their time, which makes life a logistical obstacle course. #backtoschool #parenting