Are You Too Smart To Be In The Relationship You're In?


 We all know someone, if not ourselves, who have been or  is in a relationship that is toxic - unhealthy and debilitating. You know, that feeling of compromising your authentic self (physically, spiritually and mentally); feeling less than who you are.  You live in the fear and insecurities of not wanting to give up, feeling as if you're not good enough, afraid of starting over or being alone.  Instead of responding to your intuitions and heart telling you that this relationship is not for you, you submit yourself to doubt and the supposed power they have over you.  Maybe you try to leave but the person apologies, confesses their love and ask you to stay but despite the pain they cause you and against your better judgement you stay in hopes that the person will change.

Dr. Monique Belton

If the above describes you or someone you currently know, then you may want to seek out Dr. Monique Belton, Ph.D., Licensed Clinical Psychologist, Relationship Coach and Co-Author of the book, The Essential Guide to Overcoming Obsessive Love.  Dr. Belton helps empower people to  define themselves and overcome obstacles and negative blocks in order to achieve their goals and enrich their lives.  Her professional credentials includes running a private practice for over 30 years, Harvard A.B. cum laude, and assistant professor of Psychology at Empire State College.


Dr. Monique Belton uses a variety of techniques to assist effective recovery from destructive or addictive relationships, love addictions, depression, anxiety, stress and self-destructive patterns.  Through her individualized psychotherapy services, her clients are able to start mending love ties and resolve issues that keeps them from moving on to a healthier life.

A relationship need not be romantic to be considered toxic, the toxic agent can come in the form of family, a friend, a coworker or even a boss. In fact any relationship that depletes you, is destructive and toxic and you should run in the other direction. Ideally we'd like to think that we can always see the toxic relationship coming, but that is not so. Sometimes one does not realize that they are in a toxic relationship until they are so deep in, that they find it hard to get out.

Signs that you're in a toxic relationship

  • Are you denied physical and emotional nourishment?
  • Are you forced or manipulated to do things you don't want to do?
  • Does the person make your decisions for you?
  • Are your feelings and thoughts dismissed?
  • Are you afraid of making this person angry?
  • Does the person make you feel that you're responsible for their wrong?
  • Do the person lie and cheat repeatedly?
  • Do you feel more like a child than an adult in the relationship?

Have you been brave enough or afraid to leave a toxic and destructive relationship?

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