Reflections: True Beauty and Confidence


I had a relationship post ready and scheduled for today but with all the inspiration bombarding me this weekend, I was compelled to stay up late and prepare this post instead.  I woke up late Sunday morning so I didn't make it to church, little did I know that my sermon for the day was going to come by way of "Oprah Prime."  The episode which featured and highlighted 4 women of different age groups that was refusing to be defined others and was reshaping what beauty and confidence meant to them, would be one of the highlight of my weekend.  The other would be Oprah's interview with Kevin Hart.

Sharon Stone who at the age of 56 graced the March cover of Shape Magazine, looking hotter than ever. The issue that focused on shaping your life and Sharon shared her stay-sexy secrets.

Sharon Stone at age 51, embracing her best self.

Ernestine Shepherd, the oldest body builder at the ripe age of 77, taught  us that age ain't nothing but a number.  Ernestine started working out at 56 and since then became a personal trainer, professional model, and competitive bodybuilder who is inspiring women around the country.

Cameron Diaz, actress and now best selling author of The Body Book, says "you can't defy age but you can take care of yourself."  Diaz who strongly believes that we are what we eat, shares her formula for becoming happier, healthier, and stronger her essential guide that is grounded in science and inspired by her own personal experience.

The message that was consistent with these inspiring ladies was to be confident in who you are, and comfortable in being your best self.

Like Lupita Nyong'O so elegantly puts it...

 We can't rely on beauty to sustain us... Feel the validation of your external beauty but also get to the deeper business of being beautiful inside. There is no shade in that beauty.

I leave you with Lupita Nyong'O's moving speech at the Essence Black Women in Hollywood event.

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