What Relationship, Marriage and Parenting Taught Me

Photo by  Becca Tapert  on  Unsplash

Photo by Becca Tapert on Unsplash

The period between December 21st through January 10th over the years have become the most special four weeks for me. Including the birthdays of those dearest to me (my two daughters and the bae), Christmas, and New Years.

As children we often dream of the life we would have - the career, the one we marry, the kids we would have, and the happy life we would live. But that is of course until we grow up and real life sets in.  The problem is, we don't anticipate the challenges and so when they arise we get disheartened. With every stage of our lives, our passions tend to shift - especially for us women when we become moms. So how do we combat these land mines while staying committed to our vision?

Here are the lessons I've learned over the years that may also help you weather parenting, and navigate your relationship journey.

Me over the years

Me over the years

What I've learnt...

As a Dater

  • Do be open for the unexpected
  • Don't be afraid to make the first move
  • Don't carry past baggage
  • Do be your true self
  • Look for someone who will love you despite your imperfections


As a Spouse

  • Do carve out couple's time for you and your spouse - and remember quality doesn't necessarily equate to spending lots of money
  • Do embrace each other's passion
  • Do make major decisions together
  • Men are more sensitive than they would let on
  • Don't compare your marriage to others
  • Marriage impacts an entire family


As a Parent

  • Don't lose who you are in your kids, remember you
  • Do keep your children protected
  • Each child is different, so don't compare them
  • Appreciate the memorable moments
  • Promote positive expectations
  • Parenting doesn't get easier

Whether you are just dating, is married and or a parent, the biggest lessons I've learned are that (1) everyone has different communication styles and (2) success is a joint venture.

What lessons have you learnt as a dater, a spouse or as a parent?